'I'm convinced husband cheated on me after finding 25-year-old evidence'
A woman claimed she's convinced her husband has been keeping a huge secret from her for 25 years - and she has compelling evidence that suggests he's been lying
If you've ever been betrayed by someone you love, you'll understand just how devastating it feels. It's not merely the deception itself that's so painful to discover, but depending on the duration they concealed it and the magnitude of what they're hiding, it can destroy relationships and leave you questioning whether you truly knew the person you were meant to share your life with.
However, one woman has revealed discovering her husband's betrayal ranks among the most devastating experiences she's ever endured - as it exposed a deception that both he and her closest friend had concealed from her for 25 years. Posting on Reddit, she explained she doesn't have concrete evidence of the lie yet, but she witnessed convincing proof suggesting he's been hiding something enormous from her for more than two decades.
She alleges that her "lifelong best friend" actually bore a child with her husband 25 years ago and that neither has ever revealed the truth about the girl's paternity.
In her post, she detailed how she had been present in the delivery room 25 years earlier when her best friend gave birth, explaining she placed her daughter for adoption as she wasn't prepared for motherhood. Nevertheless, 16 years later, her daughter tracked her down and the two established a bond.
But when her best friend revealed a photograph of her now-teenage daughter, the woman was stunned. The teenager appeared identical to a "female version" of her husband, whom she had subsequently divorced for separate reasons.
She confronted her friend about it at the time, and admitted she did sleep with the woman's husband back when the pair were still married, but insisted there was no way her daughter could be his.
The woman wrote: "Fast-forward nine years. The girl, now a young woman, keeps showing up on Facebook as a person I may know. Out of curiosity, I click on her profile and the present-day [profile] picture. It's like I'm looking at a female version of my ex-husband and a female version of my son, whom I share with my ex-husband.
"They're also the same age and pregnant at the same time. Go figure."
She went on to reveal she has "made peace" with her ex-husband and believes he's a brilliant father to their two sons. They still maintain a good relationship when they attend events their children are involved in, and there's no animosity between them.
However, she is no longer friends with the other woman. She claimed she severed ties with her some time ago "just for being nasty," but she isn't sure how to proceed now that she's convinced her husband has a secret daughter.
The woman said she doesn't think her husband knows about his potential daughter, and claimed that several years ago, the young woman wanted to know who her father was, but was unable to track him down.
Commenters on the post suggested that while they understood her reluctance to "interfere", if she believes she has crucial information, she should inform her ex-husband and encourage him to take a DNA test - or at least to examine the woman's Facebook profile to spot the resemblances himself.
One individual commented: "If you guys are civil and co-parent well, maybe since it's been 25 years, it's time to tell him. [Just say] 'Hey, [my] ex-best friend's biological daughter looks a lot like you and the boys, you might want to at least scoop out her socials and see for yourself'.
"It puts the ball in his court on what he wants to do, and you're not carrying what you emotionally feel is a big secret."
Another stated: "I think you should let him know the situation. Tell him that you're aware that they were both intimate during that time and that she had a daughter. If he were a great father, he would reach out and potentially take a DNA test.
"You carry information that can bring someone closure on who their bio dad is. People don't realise how serious that is. I would be more vocal about it if I knew. Especially if this woman is a half-sibling to my child."