Lawyer says rude people 'can't stand' my one comment that 'ruins their day'
According to the trial lawyer, the response is the best comeback to use when someone is being mean
Nobody likes arguments, but if you do find yourself in an uncomfortable situation, a lawyer has shared three of the most effective comebacks that anyone can use to 'shut rude people down'. Jefferson Fisher, a trial lawyer, New York Times bestselling author, and self-proclaimed argument expert, shared the advice.
He revealed the tips on his popular TikTok channel @Justaskjefferson, where he often posts communication advice for his 1.5 million followers. Jefferson shared three comebacks people can use in a post titled: "How to stand your ground in the conversation."
The lawyer said: "Three quick comebacks when you can't think of anything to say. Number one, 'that's reaching'." The lawyer explained: "It immediately conveys that whatever they just said was beneath you and desperate." For his second tip, he shared a similar response.
Jefferson continued: "Number two, 'that's disappointing.' This one is one of my favourites because you can apply it to just about anything, especially over text or email. Whenever you say that's disappointing, whatever they say next, don't respond to it. It's going to live in their head rent-free."
He added: "Number three, this one's not for everybody, but you might like it. Begin your sentence with, 'imagine being the person who's proud of that comment. Imagine being the person who thinks that's funny.' Whenever you say 'imagine being...' it is just a reflection back onto them, that's going to get in their head."
However, the lawyer reckons the best comeback is usually choosing to have a good day. In another post, Jefferson said: "I'm gonna give you the greatest comeback for when somebody says something mean, and it's this: your decision to have a good day.
"Beyond any turn of phrase I can give you, beyond any script, it is simply your decision to go enjoy your food, go have a good afternoon, go get a good night's rest, go do that thing that you like to do that they simply cannot stand."
He claimed: "They realise that you don't need their approval, you don't need their permission. In fact, they lose twice, once when they tried you, and second when they realise they couldn't get to you. So it is in your choice to have a good day, to smile, it's in that silence, they realise that a good day is something they now can't have, so try that."
In his caption, Jefferon added: "The greatest comeback to mean comments is you minding your business and having a good day." Viewers appreciated the video, and the post earned over 15,000 likes, reports the Mirror.
Praising the advice, someone replied: "I have used this at least three times recently. When they tried to bait me into an argument or make me angry I used this! Thank you for your words."
A commenter said: "Yesss. The silence let's them have the thought without attacking you." Another viewer wrote: "Needed that."